Having made friends in various places overseas, some of my online conversations are very different from my ‘normal’ day-to-day communication. For example, today a Bangladeshi friend wrote to me and explained that his parents are forcing him to marry soon and he doesn’t feel ready for it. It’s almost impossible to give advice across such a cultural divide. It would be easy to say, ‘Well, if you don’t want to get married, don’t get married. Wait until you feel ready and don’t be pressured into something you don’t want to do’; however, while this advice would be appropriate for a fellow Australian, it isn’t really appropriate for someone who comes from a country where arranged marriage is the norm and the wishes of parents are respected more than they are here. I explained I couldn’t really give advice, except to say that if it really is his destiny to get married now, then he should put his mind towards thinking about what kind of husband he wants to be and about what he needs to do to build a strong and loving relationship with his wife to be. He has sent me a picture of him and his wife to be, so it’s nice to see that he has at least been able to spend at a little time with her already. I have grown to appreciate the value of arranged marriages, though of course it is by no means a perfect system. While it works well for some people, it can confine others in unhealthy relationships from which there is no escape. My parents weren’t home tonight so I was able to switch the TV away from ABC. What was the first show that came on? Married at First Sight – Australia’s own version of arranged marriage.
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